16
Apr '18
RELATIONSHIP DEVOTIONAL: THE GOD IN GOODBYE
16
Apr '18
Nothing draws us closer to God like the hurt that comes from relationship. Love exposes the soul to human extremes, pleasures, and hurts that only love can.
If you’ve loved and lost — to win, had to sacrifice a relationship for your greatness, or had to surrender your will to God’s will and let someone go, you’ve had to walk in a closeness with God that does not compare to most other situations.
Don’t get me wrong, we don’t start out with the plan or the intent to be hurt just so that we can get closer to God. No, emotional heart attacks push us into God’s Emergency Room — bleeding, bruised and broken.
One of the divine lessons that love will continue to teach us, until we learn it, is that we are not love. Repeat, we are not love. God is love (1 John 4:8). When we’re loving on purpose with whom God planned for us, God is loving through us for them. The bible says it this way, “For it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure” (Philippians 2:13).
If, then, God is love and it is His love that is working in us and through us for His pleasure, who we emotionally pick as a mate or to date does not mean that they are a divine match. We would have to say that we were using or know the mind of God in order to convince ourselves that we know, in advance, if someone is meant for us. We don’t have that ability (Romans 11:34. 1 Corinthians 2:11). We can only use proof, evidence based on behavior that agrees with our Savior (Luke 6:43-45). Emotions alone are not qualified, and can be too contaminated, to be relied on as the only proof of a divine match.
We’re not our own, we belong to God and the supernatural blueprint for our life is not subject to our emotions — it can’t be. We have to pause when we think about the hurt that comes from who walks out or who we have to remove from our life. Think about it: If someone who is not meant for us leaves our life, a surrendered will would pray for them and wish them well — knowing that God has put a love period where we had a love question mark. If we cannot genuinely pray for a season and wish them well, we have not surrendered our emotions to God’s will for our life.
Put This In Your Spirit: If you aren’t for them, then that means they aren’t for you either. Two wrongs don’t make a God right. God’s plans for your life, and theirs, were created before you were born (Psalm 139:13, Jeremiah 1:5, Ephesians 2:10). We either are on plan or we’re off track with everybody we meet. Whenever God steps in, it’s to keep our lives on track with His plans: “For I know what I have planned for you,’ says the LORD. ‘I have plans to prosper you, not to harm you. I have plans to give you a future filled with hope” (Jeremiah 29:11).
Emotions that override God’s divine plan, warnings and signs, are disobedient emotions (2 Corinthians 10:5), that are influenced by seductive evil spirits — Our emotional condition will determine the influence familiar spirits can or will have over us. Jesus came so that we might have life and life more abundantly — only demonic forces are at war with God’s plans for our life (John 10:10).
Consider This: Trees shed leaves when it’s time to change seasons — for self-preservation. In other words, even the tree will shed leaves in order to save its life. But know this, when the tree sheds a leaf, not one leaf that falls to the ground kills the tree.
Walking in divine truth leads emotions. It’s a position worked-for, hard-fought for that usually requires retraining our emotions to acknowledge, submit and abide in the will of God. This is not hardly natural, in fact it is impossible without an intimate relationship with Jesus (John 15:5).
Fighting back thoughts and emotions that come from the enemy takes work. In fact, without abiding in an intimate relationship with Jesus, the work will wear us out (James 4:7) — Especially when the emotions we’re trying to fight are emotions that want what we don’t need.
You don’t have to fake it. Unless you have an iron brain, it takes a minute to submit to God’s will — every new test requires a new level of submission. But what we have to remember, consider for our own sake, is this: Emotions that can tell God what to do or tell you to do anything that harms you or your destiny, are influenced by the enemy – no matter how good they feel (2 Corinthians 10:3-4).
Break up with fear and emotions that tell you to harm yourself. Break it off! Cry if you have to, crawl if you have to and even if you stumble on your way out, submit to God’s will for your life. When we’re not walking in our divine truth, every season will look like a lifetime and if we’re not careful, long and wrong seasons can become unhealthy soul ties.
When we won’t or can’t do what God’s love requires us to do — learn from the past and step aside, the Holy Spirit will protect us in our weakness by interceding on our behalf (Romans 8:26) — even when we don’t want to be protected. When someone is not for us, right for us or not ready for us, God steps in. It might look like a breakup but if God stepped in, it’s a divine shakeup. God lets wrong things fall apart so that He can make right things fall together.
Put This In Your Spirit: Haven’t you noticed that when you lie to yourself about how you’re being treated by someone, the truth drives you crazy? No matter what we tell ourselves to try to make wrong right, the truth won’t allow us to be at peace with emotions that break our heart.
When people leave your life or have to be removed, it is confirmation that their season is over — not your life. When you love you with the love of Christ, you don’t ever have to be with somebody to be somebody — happy, healthy and powerful. The evidence of our surrender to God’s will is in how we respond, react and ultimately recover from a God intervention.
When you know what you bring to the table, you’re not afraid to eat alone.
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05
Apr '18
RELATIONSHIP DEVOTIONAL: ALONE AND LONELY ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS
05
Apr '18
Being alone can sometimes feel lonely but single is not a death sentence. Yes, we all love companionship and yes we enjoy good company. We’re human and, we were created to love someone who loves us intimately and uniquely.
But alone is who we’re with and lonely is being miserable with who we’re with. Lonely has to be with somebody to be somebody. But people don’t cure our loneliness, loneliness is an inside job.
No, we don’t have to be satisfied being alone but content, yes (Philippians 4:11-12). Why? Contentment or Joy is a fought-for, struggled-for fruit of the spirit that the fruit of self-control relies on (Galatians 5:22-23). Anybody who has ever hooked up with somebody while they were lonely will tell you that, 1) A spirit of loneliness makes you feel out of control, and 2) A spirit of loneliness robs us of our joy, and causes our heart to leak with low self-esteem, low self-love, distrust and obsession.
All of us have gone to the grocery store hungry. When we shop with hunger, starvation, we don’t make wise decisions, we make desperate decisions — something quick, something easy and something right now. When we shop hungry, we almost always buy something that we don’t need.
Loneliness that causes unhealthy emotional hunger is no different. Unhealthy emotional hunger tends to use temporary emotions to make long-term decisions — in the heat of the moment. If you’ve gotten into a relationship because you were lonely, hungry, chances are the relationship didn’t last long — if you knew you were only looking for a snack, that might have worked for you.
But if you were looking for a lifetime relationship, you probably found out that as soon as the hunger was satisfied, emotions filled up, the attraction wore off. After you sobered up, you might have even experienced Hunger After Shock — that feeling of, “Did or why did I choose that?” A relationship initiated out of hunger is usually intense in the beginning — that’s why it can be confusing, but it’s always mild in the middle and it melts down after a short period of time.
Loving on purpose takes soul work. When our soul is right, healed, healthy and content, we are ready for our soul match. Remember a soul mate can be an unhealthy match but a soul match is that person who God planned for our best self. Our soul match compliments our willingness to be by ourselves if being with someone else means being miserable.
In other words, we tend to mate with someone who matches our soul condition. Loneliness is not a condition that you want to attract or mate with. A lifetime love is somebody who we choose to do life with, not somebody we have to put up with for the rest of our life. How we choose to be alone is up to the individual but however we choose to be alone, we should enjoy it to the fullest — Date, learn, grow.
When you know what you bring to the table, you don’t mind eating alone.
We have to check our heart before we check into a relationship. God will guide us into the path that He planned for us when our heart is ready, willing and able. We don’t and won’t always get it right but before you get emotionally caught up, pray this simple prayer: “Lord, create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me” (Psalm 51:10) — and listen with honest ears. One thing is for sure, we cannot recognize a swine when we’re out of our emotional mind (Matthew 7:6).
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15
Mar '18
WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD MEN AT?
15
Mar '18
Ladies, you aren’t looking for all the good men. In fact, you aren’t looking, you’re positioning and preparing to be complimented not completed.
Don’t let the crowd tell you that there aren’t any good men. The crowd is not looking for your good man. Your good man is the one that God set aside just for you.
You haven’t dated all men, you’ve dated the wrong men, seasons and lessons. Stop tripping over the wrong one’s, the right one is not every man. If there’s only one right man, that means that 99% of the men you meet are going to be, are supposed to be, have to be the wrong man — for you.
The wrong one is only a problem if temporary emotions make permanent decisions. If your emotions follow, not lead, your decisions, the wrong one should confirm that you are true to holding on to your pearls until the right one shows up.
Put This In Your Spirit: You can’t expect what you don’t believe you deserve. Deserving is not just what he brings to the table, deserving is what you bring to the table that makes what you deserve a reality and not a fantasy. You’re not perfect and neither is he but you will be perfectly capable of being perfect for each other.
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