You have to move on, stop giving them more chances to cut you.  Save yourself.  You’ve carried them as far as you can.  You gave them as much as they needed to prove that you don’t need to keep watering dead things.
It’s not personal, it’s greatness, destiny and sanity.  There are some people who are doing overtime in your life.  They don’t and they won’t get it.  They’re not supposed to get it, their time is up, the relationship has expired.  You cannot make the wrong person do the right thing.
Put This In Your Spirit: You have a sanity code.  Your C.O.D.E. = Close Open Doors Easy. Closing doors to our soul that let the wrong people in has to be the easiest thing we do. Don’t pet the devil, doors that let drama, confusion and distraction in our life are a threat to everything in our life: “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8).
The most difficult doors to close are the one’s that let the closest people in.  For you and everybody else.  Judas was close, and your frien-enemy is going to be close too.  Our closest people are the one’s who know enough to be dangerous and who know we care enough to let them abuse their privileges.
Sometimes our open door is to a “friend” who is not a friend to our relationship or our relationship boundaries. Relationships come with enough problems, your spouse or mate should not have to deal with outside assassins.  For the sake of your relationship, never leave an open door for wrong people.  These people are the gasoline for your fires, cheerleaders for your wrong decisions and sowers of division.  Close the door on them — they aren’t happy for you unless your relationship is unhappy.
The bible said, “A double minded person is unstable in all their ways” (James 1:8).  We have to be either for or against our sanity and our greatness.  We cannot be both. It’s not always easy but it’s always right to do right by you. A friend to your weakness is an enemy to your greatness.  The bible said be either hot or cold but don’t be luke warm — You cannot think great and do the opposite of what is great  You cannot have a great relationship and court relationship killers.  We cannot do the opposite of what supports and feeds our greatness and be great.  
Yes, people who you have to close the door on are going to be upset — sometimes.  If they respect your greatness they will understand — if they don’t, they won’t.  Don’t be afraid to let people know that, “Things have changed and you have to get back to focusing on your priorities and getting close to God’s plans and desire for your life.” That’s called working out your faith (Philippians 2:12).  You don’t have to get mad, tell them off or throw the deuces up in their face, just keep it real, keep it simple and keep it moving.
Closing open doors that let wrong in is a sign that you are ready to live God’s plans for your life and you take mental and emotional ownership of the requirements.  Cry if you have to but don’t keep watering dead things and expect joy to live.
Your greatness, your relationship, your family, your sanity, your relationship with Jesus is on the line. Don’t make excuses for people who don’t belong in your life. Everybody is not going to go easy or be easy to let go of but you’re not choosing to let go of them, you’re choosing to hold on to your sanity — and you need both hands. The bible warns us this way, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” (Proverbs 13:20).  
You only have one life to live.  God planned on you living it to the fullest (John 10:10).  Truly living our best life means that we have to make tough decisions for our greatness.  The only people who will have a problem with you making the right decision for your sanity or your greatness are the people who don’t care if you’re out of your mind or run out of time.
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  1. Jean Barr says:

    I really appreciated this article. I’ve really tired of the relationship with my friend of almost two decades. Always drama. I’ve helped her in multiple ways. Relationship one-sided. It’s always about her. I feel she minimizes my problems and maximizes hers. She needs therapy. Thanks.

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